Why Do Women Test Men by Pulling Away
The truth is, many men don’t understand women’s behavior sometimes, and they get confused and start wondering if they have done anything wrong or what.
One of those strange behaviors some women display sometimes in their men is pulling away while the relationship is moving fine and nothing seems to be wrong. Some men start wondering what really happened.
Well, let me educate you about it and how to follow her up when she acts in such a way.
The fact is, sometimes it is just a test, and sometimes she has lost interest. Now you might be asking, “Why is she testing me by pulling away?” Here are the possible reasons.
1. To Know How Much You Care
Sometimes a woman will deliberately pull out from a serious relationship for a while just to see how much you really care for her—if you would chase her or not.
As a man, this is probably your woman who was happy with you in the relationship but all of a sudden starts giving you attitude—replying to your messages late or probably never at all, stopping calls, ignoring your calls, and not returning your missed calls, etc.
Many times, she is just testing you to see if you really care and are willing to start chasing her again.
2. To See How You React Under Pressure
Trust me, sometimes women want to see how you react under pressure by putting you in one, then relaxing and watching how you handle it.
Many women crave a man who is very relaxed and can handle things nicely even under heavy pressure. So some of them will test your level of composure by pulling away from you, especially if the relationship is going nicely and you seem to be totally in love with them.
Many times, women use this test on men they really like and would want something very serious with, just to know if they are mentally and emotionally strong enough.
3. To Protect Her Emotions
Sometimes when women are developing real emotional connections with a man, they get scared because they are never sure if you feel the same way for them or if you would ever love them back equally. So they use the act of pulling away to control and protect their emotions.
The fear of heartbreak makes women do this so that they don’t get emotionally down when it happens.
4. To Rebalance Power in the Relationship
We all know that silent withdrawal or pulling away from a relationship is a very powerful tool that people use to control their partners and get positive results most of the time.
When communication in a relationship is one-sided—I mean, when only one partner is always calling, texting, chatting, starting, and maintaining conversations—then that relationship is one-sided. He or she would start thinking they are the one holding the relationship.
To balance the relationship, pulling away is a better weapon here. If the partner cares, he will notice it and sit up.
5. To Test Your Consistency
Sometimes your girlfriend might start withdrawing from giving you attention just to know if you would still be consistent with her or give her the same attitude.
She probably knows you like her already, but just to test your resolve—if you are active with her only when things are moving fine or if you can still put in effort when she is kind of moody or unhappy.
What to Do When She Pulls Away
1. Reflect on Your Behavior
When this happens, first of all, recall your behavior. In this way, you would know or kind of get a clue about what’s wrong—whether you offended her or not.
If you did offend her, then reconciliation should start from you. But if not, it is either she is testing you or not interested again. Continue reading this article to know what to do.
2. Stay Calm
Real men are always calm in every situation, so you are expected to be calm like a real man.
Being worried and overly anxious by blasting her phone with calls, texts, and chats could only send one signal, which is “you are weak and can’t handle pressure like a man.”
Staying calm would increase your value and attraction more.
3. Give Her Space
Before doing that, try to communicate once or twice, and if she persists—probably by not picking your calls or replying to texts—then the next option is to give her space.
The truth is, scarcity increases value. Once you become scarce to her, she will end every game she might be playing with you and start craving your attention again.
4. Do Not Be Emotional
When I said, “Be calm,” this is why—to avoid emotional outbursts.
A man should not be overly emotional; you are expected to control it. Once you are in control, you will appear masculine to her, and she will crave you even more.
How Often Do Women Test Men by Pulling Away
The fact that sometimes this is a test means that we should expect it. But the question is, “How often do they do this?”
Women often test men by pulling away from the relationship when it is new or about to get serious.
Like I said above, they don’t do this just because they want to hurt their men’s emotions—they do it to protect themselves and to know if the man they want to commit to is really worth it.
So, this is normally experienced early in the relationship or when things are getting more serious.
5 Mistakes Guys Make When Their Women Pull Away
1. Apologizing when you didn’t do anything wrong.
2. Breaking up with her.
3. Chasing her harder.
4. Becoming aggressive.
5. Supplicating to her.
6. Projecting your love too much.
Don’t make any of these mistakes, or you may end up losing her completely.