Is it Bad or Good to Ask Your Girlfriend for Money?
This question sounds so simple and ordinary, but in reality, it is a very hard question to answer correctly because people’s opinions differ on it.
This question has drawn many people into arguments about whether it is good to ask or bad to ask. In this article, I am going to give an answer and back it up with a good explanation, so read to the end to understand.
The simple answer to this question is, yes, it is bad to ask your girlfriend for money.
Relax, don’t judge me yet for giving a straight answer.
Although it is bad to do so as a guy because it has some disadvantages and might reshape your relationship in a way you, as the man, won’t feel comfortable anymore, it still depends on some factors.
When I say it depends, I mean there are some factors that can make this act good, neutral, or just normal.
When I said it’s bad, I mean you just walk up to your girl and say, “Babe, please give me $1k” or so. No! That’s bad! Actually, you can ask your girlfriend for money but not in that way.
First, meet her and ask politely to help you out with the exact amount you need, then explain to her why you need the money, etc.
I mean, she is your partner, and both of you should be helping each other. So asking your girlfriend to help you with money is not a bad thing, actually.
So, if you need financial help from your girlfriend and she seems capable, why not walk up to her and talk to her about it? She would probably help out because she is your partner.
Is It Good for a Guy to Borrow Money from His Girlfriend?
Talking about asking your girlfriend for money, is borrowing money from your girlfriend also part of asking for money from your girlfriend? Yes! So the question is, is it good to borrow money from your girlfriend as a guy?
Yes, there is nothing wrong with borrowing money from your girlfriend and paying it back later.
Like I mentioned above, your girlfriend or wife is your partner, and there is absolutely nothing wrong in asking them to lend you money or help you out, and you will pay later. I mean, that’s what partners do.
For you two to be dating and probably living together means that you love and care for each other, so helping each other out from time to time isn’t bad.
Is It Good to Ask for Money in a Relationship?
In some relationships, both partners ask each other for money, sometimes always. Is it good?
Yes, in a healthy relationship, you can ask for financial help or borrow money from your partner.
Like I explained above, there is nothing wrong in asking your partner for financial help or to borrow money from him or her. The only time it is bad is when you feel so entitled and don’t want to pay back, or when you think it is your right to ask for it and get it always. No, that’s extortion, and it’s bad.
A relationship is not for financial upliftment or a way to escape poverty or extort your partner, but I understand that sometimes your partner might help you out if you explain well and ask politely.
How to Ask Your Girlfriend for Help
Since asking your girlfriend for help isn’t bad if you really need it, let’s talk about how to go about it.
First, make sure you two are on good terms at that particular moment you want to ask her for help.
Then target the right moment and make your request. When I say the right moment, I mean when both of you are at your happiest and most exciting hour—for instance, during a meal, vacation, or holiday, etc.
Lastly, ask her very politely and explain why you need the help, the exact amount you need from her (if it’s money), and the terms of repayment, whether you will pay back or not.
Just let her know fully why you need that help, and trust me, she is very likely to help you out happily if she is capable.
Is Asking for Money a Red Flag?
No, it is not a red flag. What makes it a red flag is how you ask for the money, the relationship between you and the person you are asking, and the purpose of the money.
I mean, you can comfortably walk up to your parents and ask them for your tuition fee. Why would they see it as a red flag? You can do the same to your wife or husband, or even your boyfriend, and explain why you need it. Why would they see it as a red flag?
But if you walk up to a total stranger or someone you just started dating and start asking for money, that’s awkward and a total red flag.
So, asking for money in general is not a red flag, but who is involved and the reason for asking are what make it a red flag.