From my observations, many women seem to be attracted to men who don’t seem to want them, but the question is why? Why do some women want men that don’t want them?
I have seen people asking this question so many times both physically and on the internet like on forums and social media, but nobody could actually give a good explanation about it.
This prompted me to make deep research and carry out a survey on some women and here are my findings.
1. Investment
Surprisingly, one of the common things I discovered about some of these women that stick to men who don’t want them is that they have invested heavily in that relationship with that man.
Investment could come in many forms, like emotional investment, financial investment, etc, and a good number of women don’t easily let go of their investments.
So next time you see a woman trying her best to keep the relationship with a man who doesn’t seem to care about her going on, check very well, she might have invested heavily in the relationship and the man that she can’t just walk away.
2. Lack of Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem is another cause of this. There are some relationships that are so toxic, especially the man being so toxic to the woman, and you start wondering what the woman is still doing in such a relationship, but here is the truth.
Some women out there are suffering from low self-esteem that they can’t walk away from toxic relationships or from men who don’t seem to want them because they think they won’t get the chance to go into a new relationship ever, and no man would ever love them or date them.
Well, that is all a lie that exists only in their heads and their imaginations.
So, such women want and stick to men who don’t want them because they have low self-esteem and think they won’t find another man if they leave or stop wanting those men.
3. Pressure
In many societies, so many women are under pressure to do certain things which are expected of them by society and culture at large, so therefore so many women in this condition have no mind of their own but bow to pressure.
This pressure can come from parents, peer groups, and customs of such society. For instance, some families, friends, and customs see women divorcing their husbands as a taboo and some of such women are mocked. This is one of the reasons some women stick to men who don’t want them because they are simply afraid of what people would say and the pressure that comes with it if they stop wanting their supposed toxic men and walk away.
4. Custom
Like I explained above, custom contributes a lot to this.
In some customs, women are not allowed to make their choices when it comes to relationships, rather their parents will just give them to men in order to gain favor from such men, etc, without minding if the men really desire their daughter or not.
In a case like this where a woman is given to a man who doesn’t find her attractive, the union might lack love and emotional support, but the woman wouldn’t just walk away but would still want the man because she has no choice and their custom forbids her from walking away.
5. Financial Benefits/Power
So many women are drawn to men who are financially stable and also to men who are powerful and charismatic.
The fact is, some of these men probably have many women flocking around them and therefore might not care much about some of these women chasing them.
So, a good number of women want men that are rich and powerful, but the question is, do such men want some of these women?
This is why some women stick with men who don’t want them because they are benefiting a lot from the man.
6. Competition/Jealousy
So many women naturally want what other women want and this is one of the reasons some want men that don’t want them just because they want to get the man many women are crushing on.
This is so common in high schools where many girls would be crushing on that one guy that is popular, intelligent, and charming, while in reality, the guy is emotionally attached to one particular girl and wouldn’t want to have anything to do with other girls that want him.
Do Women Really Want What They Can’t Have?
There is a saying that “women normally want what they can’t have,” but is this really true?
Well, to me this actually depends on the particular woman, it can’t be generalized because everybody, both man and woman, has their unique characteristics and ways they see things.
I can’t say this statement is true or false, but some people could want what they can’t simply have, both men and women.